Hello Lovies!
I hope that everyone is having a good day/night and will have a wonderful weekend. :) So I got some comments on my last post about my husband, that I would like to address.
First of all: A HUGE thank you to all of ya'll who have been positive in replies about Thomas' recoveries and all the prayers and well wishes for him and me and us as a family. Thank you a million billion times.. We both cannot thank you enough. It warms our heart. We hope that God blesses you and all your loved ones.
Second is the comments like:..
"So why is it you didnt bring him his son, if you two were going through problems he was the main one he probably wants to see most.."
"Who would leave their child behind anywhere?!?!?!!?!?!!! when are you
getting him back,how long has it been since you left him wit your
family!?"
Tons of people from family and friends and strangers (like the ones who left the comments b/c they didn't sign a name so I hope you read this.) have asked this here is my answer and Thomas'
1. Thomas wants me here. yes he misses his son and cannot wait to see him again. 2. I miss my son like crazy being away from him it kills me. I was not even with him for Mother's Day okay. 3. Thomas does not want his son seeing him like this until he is better in shape. He is living in a hospital as am I, because I live in Florida and I have not been able to get a house here in Washington so I live at the hospital and care for Thomas 24/7. Do you really think that having a 16month old in the hospital would be right? Or having him see his father like this instead when he is able to even get out of bed and his pain is controlled and not in such chronic pain? The family members that have came to see Thomas understand when they get here why Xavier is with my family in Florida. He is with my family for goodness sake. He is SAFE and HAPPY, being a NORMAL kid. He is spending time with my family. He has not gotten a lot of that til I moved home and with me coming up here to care for Thomas and us seeing how this is gonna go he will be away from my family so this time with them is good for him. He is able to play and have fun. It kills us ever day we are away from him but we call and talk to him and exchanged pictures. He is not in a bad place or anything. So please take your negative comments else where! If you do not understand what it is like to have a family member be hospitalized and need constant care then you can't understand why we are away and do not have our kid with us. Once I have a house and can set up a home he will be with us again.
Now, to answer the other comments about Thomas and mine relationship.. we are not totally sure. Right now our focus is Thomas healing. We are still in love.. that was never a issue with us it was other things.. and being together again like this well causes a new look on things yes but it is complicated and I am not in the mood to go into all that details. I hope that helps a bit.
Now Update on Thomas:
His surgery was FOREVER long yesterday. and FYI this is his 7th hospital since his accident and his 4th total surgery. He has 2 for his left femur and now 2 for his right ankle and foot. His next surgery is hopefully Tuesday if his swelling is down. He has 2 or 3 more left.. my poor Thomas. Last night or technically early morning Thomas got the worst pain he has ever had in his life. We fought with trying to control that all night. Finally today they took him down to pre op and re did his nerve blocks that they have in his leg. It was helping for a few hours and then all of a sudden it stopped working so the last few hours we have been fighting to get it controlled again. It went from a 10 to a 8 so he finally is able to meditate and fall asleep. Thank goodness so he is sleeping. That is great! He is snoring too so I know he is getting some good sleep. Now I am gonna jump off here and go try to get some sleep myself.
Thank you everyone again for all the positive! I really do love all of yall and my blogging friends too!!
Have a Blessed Day/Night!
I am so glad you were able to clearly explain to the anonymous commenters who decided that they know what YOUR child needs better than you and your husband do. I think that taking things slowly during your husband's recovery is so emotionally and physically health.
ReplyDeleteI want you to know that I do a blog post with some of my new favorite blogs and I am planning on sharing yours in my most not this Sunday, but a week later. I really like how honest you are, while balancing the parts of your life you choose to share and those that are private and should be between you and your husband, not you, your husband and the blogosphere.
If you don't want to be included, just go to my blog and leave me a comment. (I try to start those posts a week early so that other bloggers have the choice whether to have their blogs included. I have never had anyone say not to share their blogs in these posts, or similar compilations/ advertisements, but I still try to always ask, unless it is a huge blog with lots of authors who obviously want a lot of traffic, or you have buttons for me to just run. Especially when I am linking to specific links in the blog, I want to let the author decide if my blog works with the direction of their blog.)
Lauren, You are so right to leave your son with family and take care of Thomas. Your son is too young to understand what is wrong. You and Thomas are the ones to work and make the final decisions. Remember it your decisions and no one else. Praying for Thomas' recovery, you to have strength to take care of yourself and Thomas, and make the right family decisions. I am here if you need to talk or anything. Pat Presley
ReplyDeleteI've been reading your posts now for a few months, but have never responded, so I hope you don't mind me commenting now.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, ignore the negative comments from everyone. They obviously have never been in your situation and have no clue what it's like. So to be blunt, screw them.
Secondly, I hate to hear that your husband is dealing with so much pain. I can't imagine how horrible that must be for you both but it's great he is finally getting some sleep. Sleeping will help the healing process greatly.
Thirdly, no matter what you and your husband decide to do with your relationship, I hope you both end up extremely happy. That's all that matters.
My prayers are with you all! I look forward to reading future updates.
Sincerely, Taylor the Navy Spouse
I am glad that your husband's surgery went well. Stay strong and don't let any nasty comments on here distract you from being with him to help him recover.
ReplyDeleteYeah we're stationed at Eglin AFB right now but the funny thing is that i'm from the area around Ft. Lewis! {But we were also at Ft. Carson} So it seems we have just switched places haha I LOVE it her! It makes me less homesick for the PNW.
Following you now :)
I'm glad your husband is doing well and that you are making plans to move in to a new house and see where it goes from there. He clearly needs you now, I hope you can figure out how to move forward together during this difficult time! it sounds like you have a great plan coming in to place, I hope you r son can be with you both soon!
ReplyDeleteI just want to say that no one has any business leaving you rude comments like that if they really have no idea what's going on in your life.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, it's not really anyone's business what was/is going on in y'alls relationship to make you separate or stay together.
I'm not an Army wife, but I am in the Army myself and married. I know how strenuous military life can be in general without adding a family to the mix. It is a very hard life and most people don't understand the things military couples go through on a daily basis because non-military couples don't have to deal with a lot of those problems.
Glad your husband is doing well!